Wednesday, July 29, 2009

Chaos has become normal.

So a little update from us: we have indeed decided to buy a home. When we researched it all out, it just makes sense- our mortgage is going to end up costing less than it would for us to rent someplace out. And our money will be going towards OUR mortgage instead of someone else's. We met our realtor for the first time yesterday and absolutely love him (see picture!) He comes with a wife too! They work together as a team, which I love, because you get both perspectives on a home. They made us feel comfortable from the get-go. And they are very straight forward with us- "you don't want this home, we won't let you buy this one" etc. And they are constantly bantering back and forth in that we've-been-married-for-41-years kinda way. We are also very thrilled that they are incredibly supportive of us shopping in a price range way below what we were pre-approved for. They are wonderful and we have no doubt that they will take good care of us!

So we looked at about 6 houses yesterday and were pretty encouraged with what was out there. We didn't feel that overwhelmed, until we both woke up at 3am last night with what I would call "stress dreams". Our heads were both swirling with house layouts. :) It was pretty funny. We were up watching "Fresh Prince of Bel Air" until almost 6am. I hope this isn't a habit. So now the new question is where do we stay for the next months while we look for a house? We're hoping to get into some kind of short-term place that is decently priced and safe. Our hotel is kicking us out tomorrow! But we already made two friends one of the first days we were here who said we could stay with them after they close on their house in mid-August. I never thought I'd be without my own home for so long! Hopefully I'll just appreciate our new home that much more. We'll be master clothes-rollers and car packers by the time this is all said and done. And it has been nice having housekeeping... :)
Air Force stuff has been good, and kinda frustrating. Today we spent several hours just trying to get all our paperwork in order (there's SOOOO much of it!). But Nathan was excited because we went to a place on base called "Rod and Gun" and discovered that they have hunting and fishing opportunities on base! He's sitting here reading me all this information as I type. Nate doesn't have to start work until next Wednesday, which means we have the next week to look for a home. I'm really hoping we find one soon so we can get this ball rolling. The Lord knows. So for those of you who talked about coming to visit, we may have to postpone those times until October! I guess that's all for now.

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

House Hunting

So we're in the middle of looking for a place to live up here- and it's STRESSFUL! We thought we were just going to find a 3 bedroom house to rent, but the more we considered the present housing market, our housing allowance from the military, and the tax credit for first time home buyers, we are looking into the possibility of buying. It's scary, but kind of exciting. We still need to meet with a mortgage broker and realtor to weigh the options. We definitely don't want to jump into something prematurely. Thats how bad debt happens.

Life has been crazy since we got here. We arrived late Sunday night and checked into one hotel. They were out of rooms for the next 10 days we needed, so Monday we had to find another place to stay. In the meantime, Nate had to go to base only to discover that no one knew he was coming (organized gov't at it's finest)- so he had to sit around for a few hours. We had to sit through other in-processing things that day too. But that day we did get to look at the base housing that Wright Patterson offers. It's nice, and close by- a good backup if needed.

Yesterday, I believe we looked inside 6 houses (to rent), talked to about 5 different people about all our questions, and drove by about another 4 houses on our list. I made a ton of phone calls- and we probably drove more than 60 miles just in the city. We saw some good places, and some ugly ones. And now I understand why realtors encourage you to paint your walls a neutral color to make your selling chances better. We saw one house with a LIME GREEN kitchen! And another with white/black checkerboard wallpaper. Yuck! But I feel like yesterday, we learned a lot about the area, just from the people we talked to and the hours of driving through the city we endured.

I am a bit overwhelmed, and tired of eating out. And to top it off, they've given Nathan some various meetings and things to attend in the next few days. One car is getting complicated up here! But, its always nice to just come back to the hotel, take a shower, and rest again, getting ready for the next day. Pray for us and that God's wisdom would prevail, and that we would find a place to live!

Thursday, July 16, 2009

What I'm Grateful For.

Well, we leave Montgomery tomorrow morning; and I'm pretty excited. It's a mixed feeling. This time down here has been great and relaxing, but I am really ready to get to Dayton and to start our real life there. We'll spend all next week looking for a new home, and I'm a little nervous about that too! But I know the Lord will provide something for us. And no doubt with some extra room so people can come and visit. So in reflection, here's what I'll miss about this summer:

1. Having no time committments. It has been so nice to not be in a hurry all the time (because there's nothing to be late for). And it has been so nice to have free time. I felt like in Louisville, and my whole life really, most every minute of my day was planned. I'm sure it's my fault and due to my reliance on a daily agenda book (which I'm not using down here!). But it has just been great to get a chance to breathe. When Nathan gets home, most nights we don't have anywhere to go. Why do we feel the need to fill up our schedules with so much stuff? Even if its good stuff like eating at people's houses, having others over, Bible Studies, etc. I was a little burnt out when we left Louisville, and this has been perfect. I want to fight for more "unplanned nights" when we get to Ohio. I think we need that rest.

2. Some of the friends we've made down here. All of us are going different ways, and it will be sad. But I guess I'm gonna have to get used to it in the Air Force.

3. Time for hobbies. It's not something I really planned for in Louisville- there's too much other more meaningful things to do. And sure, fellowship with a friend is probably more valuable than making a scrapbook page about our honeymoon, but that's not to say that there isn't room in life for that too. I tend to compartamentalize EVERYTHING into spiritual and non-spiritual. But I think that doing something I enjoy at reasonable times and in reasonable amounts can be honoring to the Lord. I've enjoyed reading, exercising, sleeping in (is that a hobby?), and scrapbooking. And hope I'll get to do more of it in Ohio.

4. This season with my husband. I know it's not over, but it's been great for Nathan and I to kinda get away on our own and learn to depend on each other more. We needed to be removed from some distractions and comfortable environments to really realize how much we need each other, and need a strong marriage. We are thankful to the Lord for giving us this time away together. It's been a rough year, and we finally feel like we're coming more and more out of the difficulty into that "honeymoon phase". We still argue, but are learning to work through it better and love each other better too.

Well, I'm out of time. Nate is in a big tournament this morning- so off to sit in the heat for 3 hours! I guess it's worth it. :)

Friday, July 10, 2009

Happenings.

Well, I don't really know what to write about, but feel as if I should come up with something because it's been like a week. Things are still going well down here. Nathan has been swamped with reading and studying for a huge test he has this morning. I will be glad when that is over for him, so he can relax a little more and enjoy some things. Tomorrow we are driving to Pensacola to see the Blue Angels. I am excited to lay on the beach and watch them.

Also, last weekend we had 4 days of break, so we drove 8 hours to Hot Springs, AR with some friends to see one of our friends, Josh Ruth. It was a fun weekend! We camped out to save money, got rained on in our tents, toured the city, and just spent some good time with old friends. It was good to see some familiar faces again after being down here for a month.

On a different note, I am getting anxious for the "next thing." I haven't been able to really pinpoint why, and often struggle with this anyways. Just not being able to live in the moment and enjoy it for all it is. But I went to a Bible Study at a woman's house the other night, and realized I just really miss having a home. I mean, our hotel room is nice, but its a hotel room. And I'm just a homey person. Nate jokes with me about getting a new place and said I'll have it up and ready in 3 days. And he's probably right. But I know with leaving here means leaving a more relaxed lifestyle with minimal responsibility, so I am trying to soak up this next week for all it's worth. I finished a 450-page book I was reading (can't tell you the last time I did that)! And I'm looking forward to spending more time with Nathan.

This summer has really helped me to appreciate him more. I take a lot out on him. I am easily irritable and angered, and unforunately, he deals with the brunt of it all too often. He is incredible at handling my emotion and hardness-of-heart. And he just loves me and takes care of me so so so well. I feel so safe and cherished by him. I watched that movie, "P.S. I love you" last night, and it was horrible! After crying for over an hour, it really brought to my mind the brevity of life and the absolute necessity to cherish the ones we love the most while there's still time. It truly convicted me of the way I speak to and treat my husband, and how my life would fall apart without him. He is precious, and loves me with the faithful and tender love of Jesus, even when I wrong him and don't give him the honor and respect he deserves. I just praise God for blessing me with such a wonderful man... just another thing I didn't deserve.

So, I guess that about wraps this one up. Louisvillians can look for us possibly in two Sundays (July 19th), before we head up to Ohio to find a place to live. We miss you all, but are so thankful to God for giving us this precious time away.

Wednesday, July 1, 2009

Family Pictures

We went to the beach last weekend to meet my parents who were there for a business trip. It was so much fun, and the weather was beautiful. My Mom called me a few
days before we came and informed me that we would be taking a family picture- so to bring a white shirt and khaki pants.

Saturday night came along, and the whole family dressed for the photo-taking occasion (some reluctantly). So for the next hour and a half, we took approximately 100 pictures. I thought it was fun and a good idea. But what cracked me up was that, in the span of time we were outside, a family of 4 walked out dressed just as we were. No kidding, 20 minutes later, ANOTHER family dressed like us came out on the beach. And 20 minutes after that, a family of like 15 stroll on out to the beach for a similar photo adventure. There was a whole slew of the white and khaki club.

My little brother, who wasn't very happy with this whole process, muttered under his breath, "How original!" The nice part about it is that each family kinda helped the other one out by
taking the big group pictures. It was all quite an experience.

The pictures turned out great, and because I'm a woman, I actually enjoyed most of it. Nate and I were kinda scuffling that night, so we had to fake that beautiful beach romance! It was pretty funny, and actually helped us get over our differences. I can laugh at this whole process now and how common it is; but no doubt, check back on here in about 10 years, and I'll probably have our kids dressed in white and khaki for those beautiful beach pictures! Or maybe hunter's camoflauge (if it's up to Nathan!).